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Freedom II

As I was watching the fireworks Wednesday night, with my dear boyfriend and a couple friends, I had a very happy feeling.  It was like an epiphany.  If the phrase "to each his own" could become an emotion, that was the emotion that I was feeling.

What is so amazing about the concept of freedom?  Why is liberty so wonderful?  Because each person has different likes and dislikes.  Each person has eir own opinions and beliefs.  To make everyone fit one particular mold would be oppression.  To maximize happiness for each individual and for the community in general, it's best to let every person follow eir own heart.

I am very vocal about my opinions and very passionate in expressing them.  I debate endlessly with people, and more often than not the debate becomes personal and emotional.  I might become extremely angry with someone who disagrees with me.  But, the fact of the matter is, I really don't mind people who are different.  I am not in the least bit bothered by any of my family or friends who live faithful to the LDS church and believe any or all of its precepts.  I don't see any reason that they need to stop any of that.

I am not disturbed or distraught by people who wish to live their life differently than how I live mine.  I see nothing wrong with straight people marrying each other.  I see nothing wrong with people living together without marrying.  I have no problem with couples where one person is gay and the other is straight, but yet they remain married.  If that's how they want to live their life, who am I to say they shouldn't?

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