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The Nation's Capitol

Conrad and I just got back from a trip to Washington, DC.  It was a wonderful experience.  My first time to DC was actually last year, but I only had half of a day to spend there, so I didn't get to see much.  This time  we spent almost a week there and saw all of the main attractions.  We had a staff member of my representative's office take us on a tour of the Capitol.  We did a self-guided tour of the white house and all of the sights along the National Mall, including the Smithsonian.

There were so many good restaurants that people recommended we eat at.  They were all really good.  I think I gained a few pounds during the week.  It was such a happy experience.

With all of the wonders and marvels that are available to tour in DC, it's hard not to enjoy your time there.  Despite the fact that the USA is a relatively young country, there is so much history there to be told.  There's so much art and science to explore.  We wore our feet to the bone every day walking around from museum to museum.  But, for me the most wonderful and marvelous part about the trip was having my sweetheart with me.  I got to hold his hand and put my arm around my dear, adorable Conrad everywhere we went.

I was impressed by the people in DC (which, by its very nature, includes people from all over the world).  During the week that we were out in public, hold hands and hugging each other publicly, not one disparaging remark or homophobic statement was made within earshot of us.  In fact, one man said "You've got a good thing going there.  Keep it up." and several people smiled as they saw us walk by, holding hands.  We were treated equally by the police and security guards (who can be found in great abundance in DC).  I felt no discrimination at all.  I have great hope for America--and for the world--that this environment is what we have to look forward to.  I foresee a day when people will be allowed to walk down any street holding hands with their lover and not be assailed by verbal abuse.

As far as we are both aware, we didn't destroy any families by holding hands in public.  We didn't instigate any divorces.  We didn't end any marriage.  We didn't discourage any couples from being together.  We didn't dissolve any parent-child bonds.  We didn't ask any children to disbelieve their parents' religious beliefs.  But we did show a lot of people that gays can feel and show love just the same way straights do.  We feel affection for each other just the same way straight couples do.  The love between us is just as strong as the love between any other couple.  And being in an environment where other people seemed to see that as well was very refreshing.

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