Many people have asked me questions regarding what I believe will happen in the next life concerning my marriage to Karen and my impending marriage to Conrad. Usually, the wording is something to the effects of "Do you think you'll still be married to Karen?" or "Do you think that you'll want to be married to Karen or Conrad?" etc. I have thought a lot about this matter, and the more I have thought about it, the more it reminds me of a story from the Bible.
There were a group of Sadducees who came to Jesus and asked a similar question. They proposed a scenario where a woman marries a man and upon his death, she marries the next brother, until all seven brothers had died and she had married them all. Then they asked whose wife she would be in the resurrection. (Ironically, the Sadducees didn't even believe in the resurrection.) The reply Jesus gave probably took them completely by surprise. He told them that "in the resurrection, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in Heaven." (Matt 22:30) He then went on to say that God is not the God of the dead, but of the living. So, I have arrived at the conclusion that whatever is to happen in the next life concerning me, Karen, and Conrad, God will oversee it and all will be well.
As for what I will do in this life, I feel no reservation with going forward with my decision to marry Conrad. I have decided to do as Jesus instructed in the Sermon on the Mount, "Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof." (Matt 6:34) So, in the next life I will worry about what will happen concerning my marital status. Until that time comes, I will live my life as God directs me to do.
There were a group of Sadducees who came to Jesus and asked a similar question. They proposed a scenario where a woman marries a man and upon his death, she marries the next brother, until all seven brothers had died and she had married them all. Then they asked whose wife she would be in the resurrection. (Ironically, the Sadducees didn't even believe in the resurrection.) The reply Jesus gave probably took them completely by surprise. He told them that "in the resurrection, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in Heaven." (Matt 22:30) He then went on to say that God is not the God of the dead, but of the living. So, I have arrived at the conclusion that whatever is to happen in the next life concerning me, Karen, and Conrad, God will oversee it and all will be well.
As for what I will do in this life, I feel no reservation with going forward with my decision to marry Conrad. I have decided to do as Jesus instructed in the Sermon on the Mount, "Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof." (Matt 6:34) So, in the next life I will worry about what will happen concerning my marital status. Until that time comes, I will live my life as God directs me to do.
You explain it so plain and simple, I don't see how anyone could be confused by all of this. One quick question (if you don't feel comfortable answering, just tell me to bug off!): What will happen to your status as a member of the church? Will you have your name removed, or let them excommunicate you if they decide to have a court? Do you plan to continue attending/participating in church with your husband? BTW I'm a cultural Mormon so I really don't believe (or subject) to church policy or doctrine--I'll have my name removed by the end of the summer--Just curious what you expect might happen--make it a post? :-)
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Good questions, Miguel. I'll probably write that up in a post and post it on here sometime in the near future. For now, I'll just answer part of the question. Conrad and I have talked about attending church together. We would like to hold hands and put arms around each other. Since we both feel like that would be inappropriate in a Mormon church, we would likely not attend the LDS church together.
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